25 THINGS TO-DO BEFORE 25 WHICH YOUR MOM MAY NOT LOVE

Birthdays are always crazy isn’t it?

The very thought that there is this one day every year reserved to be made all about you can be pretty overwhelming, especially if you are someone like me who isn’t a big fan of celebrations.

Not a pessimistic trade, I feel birthdays tend to be hyped with a lot of expectations attached to them and I had rather be having a quiet one and fulfilling those goals instead!

Ticking off things to-do from that list you made as a school kid during a boring Maths class, remember?

So, I have a list of 25 things that I wanted to absolutely to do before I had reached the median score. I am not saying I did it all but who knows?

25 IDEAS YOUR MOTHER WON’T LIKE :

1- Get a scholarship & study what embodies your passion for the subject, not just for a degree and accolades.

2- Go to a country where you don’t know the language, live there and not just as a tourist.

3- Have an impactful relation with someone irrespective of time and language barriers.

4- Make a serious mistake. Just one, that reminds you every moment in your life that you could choose to be better and wiser, that your scar stands for something more.

5- Date someone who is wrong for you, who wouldn’t be your type. Or so you think. It’s only because you had something, you know what you don’t want.

6- Eat a piece of chocolate cake with a glass of Cabernet Sauvignon or a Chardonnay.

7- Go on an adventure in a different country, live it up there and reveal as little about yourself as possible.

8- Kiss someone you don’t love. Kiss someone who isn’t from the same country or ethnicity as you, or of the same age.

9- Get involved in high voltage dramatic situations in a foreign land for no fault of yours and come out being the victim.

10- Learn to accept other peoples POV and difference in opinions respectfully while stating your facts without any display of rage or animosity.

11- Be informed about socio-economic-political situations of the country and the world. By informed I don’t mean articles shared on social media and peer opinions endorsed by patronising people. Actually read up and dig up your political history, ups and downs and form your OWN opinion with facts and statements that goes to support the same.

12- Take the time out to know someone you despise. Or are not particularly fond of.

13- Learn to talk dirty at least once. And embrace your raw desires. Society has always wired us to be guilty and apologetic for expressing passion.

14- Start a collection. Any damn thing you want. I have a collection of the behavioural pattern of histories most infamous serial killers and their documentaries and footages.

15- Get into the habit of investment for your retirement. It sounds too early now but consider you future old self kissing you for this benevolence.

16- Have a secret tattoo that no one could see in plain sight. Only a few privileged people would know, if you know what I mean.

17- Have one inappropriate relationship and one diary that will be only yours to know.

18- Read controversial novels.

19- Just for once, buy something really expensive and pay for it with your own card or cash. Trust me, that sense of possessing something that stems from your own idea of affordability is quite a rush of sorts.

20- Take a trip, solo.

21- Learn how to cook or bake. It’s something you would occasionally find yourself enjoying in time. Makes for a great conversation starter.

22- Watch movies of different countries with subtitles.

23- Sponsor a child in any manner possible, even in the smallest of things like education or food.

24- Eat at a Michelin star restaurant at least once in your 20’s, even if its an appetiser. The thrill of it in your 30’s won’t be the same.

25- Know that your 20s are for adventure and whimsy, sure you would settle down one day and have a family and beautiful babies but that day is not today. Remind yourself of your goals, priorities and ambitions and live it up with an occasional bottle of wine now and then.

XOXO,

Adhisa Ghosh

BIRTHDAY LOOKS WITH XXLLENT

“It is a ceremony, the blowing of candles, the cutting of a cake – the mess of cream and sponge in your mouth. The taste is sweet and familiar, like a newly formed wish, fashioned from all the ones you’ve made before.

You don’t remember them in sequence – the things you ask for. You only recall those you wanted the most. Like the pair of neon pink roller-skates, you saw in the shop window when you were twelve. How deeply you felt their absence when you sat among the litter of torn wrapping paper and empty new possessions.

Or the year you turned sixteen, when your best friend’s mother got really sick, and all you wanted was for her to be okay again. It was the year you learned that shooting stars were either a blessing or a curse, depending on what you wanted to believe.

Then there was that year you fell in love. The one where there weren’t any candles – just you walking late at night through the city streets with your heart in pieces, wanting to give yourself to the first stranger who called you beautiful.

Since then it’s been the same every year. As soon as the first match is struck, the smell of burning takes you backwards through your memory. It stops you right at that moment on that warm, September night, as you watched the first trickle of melting wax hit the icing, and you couldn’t think of a single damn thing you wanted – because he was standing there, in the flickering light, asking you to make a wish.”

–––––– LANG LEAV , BIRTHDAYS

Starting this post by one of my favourite authors signifies the fact that this one’s going to be all about birthdays. Yes! I am so excited to finally reveal my looks from the collaboration with the brand XXllent, started in 2016 by Raksha Shetty. An online website portal for plus size shopping, the brand XXllent is synonymous with the belief that beauty is beyond size and that every body is beautiful.

Fashion and style are elements and state of the mind that transcends beyond a certain size, shape and colour. Well, it couldn’t have been a better fit when one day I sauntered into the Xxllent office in Pune and realised how extremely innovative, quick, hard working  with a clear vision and goal the team was. There has always been a limitation in the availability of choice in fashion for the plus size women which compromises at least 60% of fashion choice for the Indian women and the brand Xxllent had been able to map this glaring gap in the market in the retail and fashion industry for plus size or curvy women. After all, why should any women need to settle for less variety in choice?

The brands’ stylist, Ritika Tara Sharma and I decided on a few looks and because my birthday was coinciding in the month of June, I decided to style a few looks and create a style guide for various birthday personalities. So, if your birthday is around the corner, keep calm and put your style game on because I am going to give you the following lay downs and help you up your fashion game !

1-Sophisticated meets Chic

This off-shoulder cape dress is such a winner if delicate and elegance is your style. I kept it simple by adding a lace choker as the only accessory.

2- Traditional meets Contemporary

This royal look with multicolour “ikat” combination with “gota patti” lace and gold border gives that royal look for that one event where class is priority. I decided to accessorise it with one statement neck piece and red lips.

3- The Summer baby

If you are a cool and breezy person who likes to be on the move and feel fluid and casual, even on days like birthdays, this batik print summer kaftan should be your favourite. I accessorised this with a simple Swarovski neck piece to give it a touch of luxury and a statement oxidised finger ring.

4- The Fiery College Teen

I love this look because of the very stated drama the flared kimono sleeves and tie up at the waist brings in infused with the lovely red hue. This ensemble completely embodies a fiery spirit who has a panache for some fun and drama. I let the dress speak for itself and added a simple pendant neck piece.

5- The dualist

Always in a rush and hopping from day to evening occasions and no time to change because all you have is a spare skirt in your car. Fear not, I got you covered with the reversible top which can be worn in both ways in both the colours – black and purple. I love monochrome solid looks that are clean and minimal and decided to add that headgear for a little greek inspiration ! Play with the shrug for both the looks and let it add that flare and glam.

Photography – Manjari Singh and Mehuljeet Singh 

Assistant Styling – Vaishali Pandey 

Brand – Xxllent 

Written by Adhisa Ghosh